Unlock the transformative power of self-coaching with our latest episode, where we dissect the true purpose of coaching. It's not about changing others, but about providing perspective that empowers personal choice and change. We unravel the enlightening insights from Gallup's annual study, which reveals a startling lack of engagement among employees and the crucial need for focusing on strengths for strategic self-improvement. This episode is your guide to mastering the art of dovetailing—a coaching technique that marries acknowledgment of strengths with gentle guidance towards betterment.
Step into the role of your own best coach as we teach you how to harness your strengths and address areas for growth. Through the power of self-reflection and effective self-dialogue, we explore how to create a more fulfilling and engaged life, both personally and in the workplace. Our conversation goes beyond the typical motivational talk, offering practical skills and a mindset shift that can lead to lasting change. Get ready to reshape the way you view self-improvement, and let us show you how to turn your untapped potential into your greatest asset.
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One of the greatest things that we can do for ourselves is to coach ourselves. Now it sounds crazy, right, Because we often think about coaching as somebody who coaches us or somebody that we coach. One of the greatest things that we really miss in the fundamentals of coaching is the purpose of coaching. The purpose of coaching is not to change someone. The purpose of coaching is to give someone perspective so they can make the choice to change. So if you have someone with a negative attitude that you're coaching and you want to change their attitude, you don't control that.
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Now where do we start? First of all, we have to know our strengths. See, when we know the good things about ourselves and we're coaching ourselves and we know our strengths, we know the good things that we do, that does not mean we turn to blind eye to the things that we need to improve. Yet one of the great organizations, Gallup, does this study every single year, called the Gallup study, and they do this research and they report that in the workplace, 71% of employees today are neutral or actively disengaged, meaning they're negative. Only 29% are positive or actively engaged. They also report that when you lead with people's strengths, people engage eight times more. So I'm going to teach something that you should do for yourself and that you can do for other people when coaching. It's called dovetailing. So first you say you know, Tom. Here are the three things that I love about working with you. You know our processes, you know our products, you're easy to work with and not but and I think about time management becoming one of your strengths what goes through your mind and what do you think we could do to facilitate that?
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Now, essentially, what I just demonstrated was a technique called dovetailing. You lead with people's strengths. It builds momentum in the relationship. You insert the word and leave your butts at home, and then you address the area of opportunity to improve, in this case, time management. When you do that, what you do is you help people feel good about getting better. That's why there is a power in strengths. Know your strengths, know the strengths of your people and when you're coaching yourself, know your strengths. You can have the same conversation with yourself. I do ABC and D really well, and what would happen if I really improved my ability to handle conflict or whatever the area might be? Make a list of your strengths. It seems crazy because we're always making lists. We're always doing New Year's resolutions around what the things we need to improve.