Coaching Conversations

Why Getting Cut From a Team Gives Your Kid a GREAT Chance at a Career Later On

November 16, 2020 Tim Hagen
Coaching Conversations
Why Getting Cut From a Team Gives Your Kid a GREAT Chance at a Career Later On
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Coaching Conversations
Why Getting Cut From a Team Gives Your Kid a GREAT Chance at a Career Later On
Nov 16, 2020
Tim Hagen

This past weekend I received a number of phone calls from parents as it was tryout weekend for boys and girls volleyball in the state of Wisconsin. I'm still amazed that some parents feel that the process or the decision that resulted in the child not making a team was somehow unfair or personal. One such parent I shared a thought with and that was "what do you think is the silver lining?" The parent said "I have no idea" in a very abrupt response. I said "I'm no longer involved in coaching or running a club so I don't have a vested interest per se but let me ask you again calmly what do you think is the silver lining and think about before you answer about the workplace and how employees maybe in your own organization do not accept change or difficult times?" The father paused, calmed down, and this ultimately led to a really productive conversation where I think he's in a better place to work with his kid to potentially get better but also change his relationship with the decision that was made. Had this father told his child which many parents do the process or the coach was unfair this will inevitably teach the kid to play the role of victim futuristically versus build the skills to overcome!

                                            We need to build tomorrow's leaders today!

Show Notes

This past weekend I received a number of phone calls from parents as it was tryout weekend for boys and girls volleyball in the state of Wisconsin. I'm still amazed that some parents feel that the process or the decision that resulted in the child not making a team was somehow unfair or personal. One such parent I shared a thought with and that was "what do you think is the silver lining?" The parent said "I have no idea" in a very abrupt response. I said "I'm no longer involved in coaching or running a club so I don't have a vested interest per se but let me ask you again calmly what do you think is the silver lining and think about before you answer about the workplace and how employees maybe in your own organization do not accept change or difficult times?" The father paused, calmed down, and this ultimately led to a really productive conversation where I think he's in a better place to work with his kid to potentially get better but also change his relationship with the decision that was made. Had this father told his child which many parents do the process or the coach was unfair this will inevitably teach the kid to play the role of victim futuristically versus build the skills to overcome!

                                            We need to build tomorrow's leaders today!